Have you ever had that gnawing, uncomfortable feeling in your gut whenever you hear criticism directed at you? Want to know how to overcome it?
First,you must know that criticism is valuable. In fact, it is far too valuable for you to wait on the sideline till you receive it. You must invite it!
1) Ask for Criticism
If you ever had to do it, you know that giving criticism isn’t fun. So, whenever you ask someone for criticism, chances are it will catch the other person off guard and make them genuinely want to help by giving their perspective. If you don’t ask for criticism, you will still get it—just not framed as nice and not timed as well. Open the door to criticism, rather than having it slammed open on your face. Don’t wait to take criticism, seek it out.
2) Get Divorced
Sometimes we marry ourselves to our own ideas and take critiques as personal jabs. If a friend or coworker challenges your ideas or execution, he/she is not calling your wife ugly, they are simply talking about a project/decision that is entirely separate from you. So, divorce yourself from your project. It makes taking criticism way easier.
3) Be Your Toughest Critique
If you evaluate your work at the highest level on a personal level, critiques from others will come as confirmations of your own suspicions rather than complete surprises. I had a professor in college who would always say, ‘you gotta cut your baby.’ Essentially, you have to be willing to scrutinize your own work to the point that it hurts like your ‘cutting your own baby’. (I know…that’s a pretty morbid illustration…but the truth hurts!)
So, now I no longer take criticism, I invite it. My challenge for you is to do the same!